I believe that “life has to be fair, but in reality sometimes it’s not.”
We are always taught to be fair with one another, to share our toys or make decisions to benefit everyone, but when it comes to school, responsibilities, and decisions, nothing is ever fair. Even if we do everything right, sometimes life just does not go the way you want or does not treat you the proper way.
When I was younger, after my parents’ divorce, I had to move to Canada from Mexico, which is another example of how life is not fair sometimes. My parents “gave me the option” either to stay in Mexico or to move to Canada with my mother, but when it came down to it, I did not have a choice; I just went where I had to. After spending about four years in Canada, I realized that it was not for me. The weather was gloomy, and I felt pressured into my mother’s religion. This caused many challenges in my life; being a Jehovah’s Witness is not an easy task when you’re a teenager. Even though I knew leaving Canada would be the best for me, I always backed out at the last minute as I knew how much heartache it would cause my mother and sister. So after two years of going back and forth between Mexico and Canada, while wondering if life would get better, I finally took charge of my situation and told my mother about my decision. I knew it was going to kill her but I had to remember that in life you have to make decisions that are not always fair to everyone, but you have to do what’s best for you. After I made the decision, there was a lot of chaos in my family. Everyone tried everything to get me to stay, from having a family meeting and interrogating me, to where they acted as if I was the glue that held us together. Everyone I knew in the religion,including my family turned against me.
Six months after moving back to Mexico to live with my father and getting a hold of my life, I knew was best for me. I got a lot of support from my father and my stepmom that helped me succeed. Once my mother came to visit she realized how much better I was doing. I was enjoying life and moving forward. Even though she still wants me to come home and back to the religion, she is happy and accepts me and knows that the best thing I could have done was to return to Mexico.
Sometimes life throws many obstacles at us and forces us to make the decision we never wanted to make because sometimes it means that we have to hurt the ones we love. However, we have to do what’s best for us and what makes us happy. If it’s the right decision, it will work out for the best. Life is not fair from time to time, but sometimes it works out for the best.